Don’t let the past, your past, define who you are today and in the future…
What comes to your mind when you read that statement? For me, I think of all that I have been through. I think about everything I have overcome. I think about where I once was and where I am today. I think about the good, the bad, and the ugly. Yes, the bad and the ugly. We all have bad and ugly things from our past. The good news is that no matter how good, bad, or ugly your past is, who you are today is all that matters. Today is the present which takes us into the future. The past should be looked at as stepping stones and learning tools. The past should always be a reminder of how hard you worked to get you to where you are today.
You would not be who you are today if it weren’t for your past. Whether you had a good past or a bad past, the past is what helped you form into who you are today. If you had many struggles growing up as a child, through adolescence, or even as an adult think about who you were before and now think about who you are now. Would you be who you are today had it not been for the rough times in life? I can answer that question myself and say no, no I would not be who I am today. Today, I see myself as a strong, smart, beautiful woman. Where years ago, I was not strong, I was not as smart as I am now, and I had a low self-esteem.
Throughout the years of dealing with people that were not so good people, I learned to become stronger. Today I am stronger than I have ever been in life. And no I don’t mean muscle woman where I can bench press 200lbs, heck, I’m not sure I could bench press much at all! HA! I am referring to being able to handle whatever the world throws at you. Being able to deal with the people in life who want to see you fail and never be the person you picture yourself being in the future.
How many of you have dealt with these people in the past? How many of you deal with these type of people now? I know people like this exist and I know we all have had and maybe still have them in our lives. As for me, I decided to get people that drained me out of my life. Having negativity in your life while you are trying to become a better you only hurts you. The negativity they bring makes you feel as though you can’t reach your goals in life. They may make you feel like what you are trying to do will never happen. They might make you feel like due to circumstances you can’t do it or make you feel like you don’t deserve it. They will give you these reasons why you can’t do it and you let it bother you and make you feel like maybe you can’t.
For example, several of you reading this are probably starting to blog in hopes of making an extra income or even hoping to replace your full-time job blogging. I have read too many times that some of you want to give up because you are frustrated or you have someone telling you that you can’t make money blogging. Let me tell you something I don’t care what anyone says there are other people that make more than enough money blogging and work from home, so trust me, so can you if you put time and effort into it! The way I see things in life is that if one person can do it so can I! And so can you if it’s what you want to do! Don’t let people of your past or your present make you think any less of yourself. I don’t care if it’s friends or if it’s family telling you-you can’t. You tell yourself you can and you will. Let them be your motivators to push you to give it all you got. Allow them to make you stronger as each day passes and you will reach your goal. No matter what your goal is.
I want you to take everything from your past and I want you to use for your good. I don’t want you to sit and say, “But you don’t know what I have been through” or “You don’t know what I have done.” Trust me we have all been through bad events. We have all done things we wish we could take back. I want you to only think of the bad as good. What? Yes, I said to only think of all the bad as good, positive things. I want you to know that because of the bad you are where you are in life because of it. You are the strong person you are today because of it. You would not be who you are or where you are today if it weren’t for the bad.
What goals are you currently working on? Who is it that you want to see yourself as in the future? Focus on that and leave all the negativity behind. Don’t let anyone from your past or your present make you think you cannot become who you want to be. Don’t let people make you think you are any less than you see yourself being. Block those people out. You don’t need the negativity. Turn their negativity into a positive by using them to motivate you to work harder and be the best version of you that you can be. I’m telling you that you can do anything and everything you want to do in life, but you will have to work for it. It might not be easy, but trust me, it will be worth it in the end. Just be you and work hard. I promise you when you accomplish your goals you will feel like you have conquered the world. You will have ups and downs and things will go wrong. Just remember to turn those things into motivation and determination. Work through the bad and know that you will get to where you want to go. You will become who you want to be. All the bad will make you stronger and smart and it will make you feel so good about yourself. Only you can keep you from reaching your goals. No one else controls you only you control you and you can make things happen. So go on and reach your goals! You can and will become who you want to be!
Hectic Mom Jamie