Hello everyone! I have a serious question for you today…
Do you fear change? I think that we all in some way are scared of change. We are scared that we have to stop our old habits and work on starting something new. We fear what may happen if we change up our routine if we break our old habits. We fear failure. I mean, why start something new or change something up if what we have been doing causes no problems? Well, if you don’t make a change then you can’t start working on your goals needed in order to become who you really want to be. What do you want to become? Who do you want to be in the future?
Change is a super scary thing that at some point in life we all have to deal with. I think my initial change in life started with graduating from high school, man was that scary, because I had to learn how to become an adult. We all had to change after graduating from high school. While some people went off to college, others went straight into the workforce, either way, it was different than what we were used to and that point in life. We all had a major change because we were used to the routine of waking up every morning going off to high school, hanging out with our friends when we could, and just doing whatever we did at that time. Once we graduated or got out of school life got real. No more playing around, no more just being a kid. We had to change and to me it was scary.
I used to be scared of change. I was so scared of change that I put myself in places I did not and should not have been for years. One day I woke up and realized that life was not supposed to be that way and I decided to change my situation. Was I scared? Heck yeah! Was it worth it? Yes! It was the best thing I ever did for me and my kids. If I had it to go back and do it again I wouldn’t think twice about it…honestly, I would make the change a lot sooner than I did before.
Change is an awesome thing. Yet scary, but still awesome. I think the worse thing about change is that we look at it as a bad thing. We look at it as something that we have to do and we see everything that is about to be different. We realize that what we are accustomed too is about to be different. It scares us. However, what we should focus on is the positive that will come out of the change. We need to literally think about everything good that is going to happen if we make our change and don’t let the fear of change keep us from being better.
I am going to share a really small portion of my life right now relating to change…
I was once in a relationship that was abusive in every way possible. I dealt with the abuse, manipulation, and control for years. Yes, I left and came back trusting things would change, however, things only would get worse. Finally, after talking with people who had dealt with women, like myself in those situations, they helped me to realize what kind of situation I was in and I decided that day to never go back to it again. And let me tell all of you it was the hardest thing I ever did! Not because I hated losing the guy. Oh no no no it wasn’t that at all. It was the thought of going into the unknown. It was the thought knowing that a major change was fixing to happen our lives were going to change forever. My kids and I walked away from everything we had. All of our material belongings we left. We started our life over with absolutely nothing but the clothes on our backs. We were all so ready for a change. It was a change I knew would only be positive for me and my kids and our lives as a whole. It was the best thing I ever did for us. It was also the scariest thing I ever did in my life because I was a mom starting over with nothing. Still, it was the best change I ever made. We, today, are the happiest we have ever been thanks to that change that I decided to make that day. I had to set the fear aside and know that only great things were to come! Goodness, was I right!
The reason for me telling you a brief part of my history is not for judgment or sympathy. It’s simply to tell you that you can make any kind of change you want to make in your life because if I can make the change that I made then any of you reading this can also make that change you’re wanting to make. If I can do it anyone of you can too!! Will it be easy? Maybe, maybe not…but will it be worth it? Yes yes yes!!! It will be worth it! You can do anything you are willing to make happen and there is nothing that can stop you from reaching your goals and making the change you need to make in order to get there.
So what is the change you need to make in order to become who you want to be? What is the fear that is keeping you from making the change? I want you to make a list of all the positive that will come out of your change and focus only on that. Do not focus on anything but the positive and start working on who you want to become. You can do anything you set out to do! You can become whoever you want to become. No goal or dream is too small! Small goals and small dreams lead us to bigger brighter futures! However, doing nothing will get you nowhere. You’ll only have regret and one day you’ll wake up and wonder why you never started doing what you wanted to do. I have said this before and I will say it again…Only you can make the change in your life no one else can do it for you!
I want all of you right now to think about what you want to do…is it to move up in your job? Get a new job? Be a better mom, wife, girlfriend? Go back to school? Start working on a blog to start making extra money? How about just to be a better you? Whatever it may be there is a reason why you are reading this and I am going to tell you some extremely important things right now and I want you to remember them always…
The secret to change is to focus on everything new that is going to happen and keep all the negative out. I know first hand that change can be scary, but too me, it’s even scarier to keep repeating old habits allowing yourself to never grow. So today make the rest of your life the best of your life!! What are you waiting for?
Hectic Mom Jamie